Sunday, May 22, 2011

Modern Etiquette: Overcoming Rudeness !

Modern Etiquette: Overcoming Rudeness !

As the old saying goes, if we want to change anybody else, we first must change ourselves. But how do you reform rudeness?

Rudeness is becoming an epidemic. And I'm not even talking about cyber-rudeness.
People steal each other's cabs. Telephone receptionists are nasty. Sales clerks act like they're doing you a favor when you buy something. Waiters exhibit an attitude. Vicious gossip sells newspapers. Decency is considered boring.
Look outside and you'll see litter everywhere except in trash cans. Sit down in a restaurant and you'll find gum is underneath every table. Go into an office and you'll see bosses who don't treat their teams like human beings - foregoing simple little things like acknowledging their presence with introductions to visitors and clients.
The list could go on forever. I know because I pay a lot of attention to these things. I also know because any number of people call or write to tell me their latest manners travesties.
And all of it begs a question.
Hasn't anyone noticed that if we want to change anybody else, we first must change ourselves?
Books can be written. Speeches can be made. But I ask you: Who ever learned to ride a bicycle by reading a book?
The point is that any significant, lasting change must come from within, not from without. I can rattle off information about etiquette skills, but they ring hollow if we don't honour some very basic principles for success. 
1. Every living thing deserves respect. 
2. A person's wealth really is determined by the quality and integrity of his relationships.
Our relationships are the most important and significant components of our lives. If, in fact, our relationships with our Higher Power, our self, our spouse, our family and friends, and finally, our career - in that order - are healthy, then the material trappings believed by most of us to be "wealth" will more likely become ours. Think about it. What are the qualities and actions that really help in attaining success and sustaining it throughout a business career?
3. Our relationships are smoother and more satisfying when we understand and use the basic etiquette skills that make sense for our individual lifestyles. 
4. Manners and etiquette are not the same thing.
Manners have to do with our basic attitude and approach to life and the people in it. Kindness is the essence of good manners. Etiquette, on the other hand, is a set of rules that govern our relationships in various situations.
Etiquette is different from country to country, city to city, company to company. For example, in the United States the handshake is an essential part of greeting. In Japan, however, a bow takes the place of a handshake. Is one better than the other? Certainly not.

Best  Regards,
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